There’s nothing quite like that dull aching pain. Knowing that the person that once wanted to be with you all the time now doesn’t want to be with you anymore. No matter how amicable a break is, its still painful, its like someones died. I just want to know what you do personally to pick your self back up and shake it off.

I imagine you will be getting a number of different answers which are based on the experiences of the person answering your question. However, you will find that it will not help you.

The only thing that heals a wound is time, and time alone. The reason time heals is that the synaptic pathways within the brain die off, or become less activated over time. It is a biological process that you have to allow to take place. To help it alone, don’t sit and ponder and dwell on it. Don’t try and figure out where things went wrong, what you did wrong, etc. You will find that slowly your pain will fade and you will find another who will make you forget your previous friend. So don’t fret and get on with your life because things will become better.

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I love her so much, but she doesn't treat me right. Although she is what makes me happy, how can i get over her. (I haven't broken up with her yet)

1. Try to correct your problems. If she's not treating you right, sit down and discuss this. Tell her how bad you feel when she says this or that. She needs to change for the better, OR

2. Think of how bad you feel and focus on it. Realize that this is what truthfully isn't making you happy and then feel free to let her go. Move ahead by yourself, doing whatever it takes to make you happy again (activities, friends)

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I was with my gf for 9 months. We broke up 3 months ago and I’m still not over her. How long will it take? I so hate her because she treated me like crap the last 4 months we were together and so lied to me. I loved her sooo much and now it’s over and I’m all alone:( How long will it take to feel better?

The length of time it will take is very individualized and it depends on your personality type. This probably was the first really significant relationship and subsequent loss you have experienced. Everyone has one of those… then they learn to hold back something of themselves to regenerate from after that. Rather than putting their entire heart and soul on the line.

It really can be devastating. There are so many variables that can make this worse. When you really have blended your feelings and experiences with (more…)

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