The biggest mistake guys make when dating and how this simple dating tip will overcome it.
Out of all the dating advice you will ever read, this is the important one.
The biggest mistake that guys make when dating is to not decide exactly what it is they are looking for.
All men have this problem when they first start dating.
Pisces men, or men with Pisces in a prominent position in their birth charts have this problem.
Virgo men or men with Virgo prominently in their birth charts are the best at analyzing and overcoming this problem quickly.
What kind of relationship are you looking for? Are you looking for a long term or permanent relationship? Are you looking for a girlfriend? Are you looking for a one-night stand? Do you want to find someone to take home and show Mom and Dad or are you looking for a girl to just have sex with and maybe go to dinner or the movies with one in awhile with no strings attached?
Most guys have no idea exactly what they are looking for.
Most guys waste time, effort, and money sending out the wrong signals to the wrong women.
If you don’t know where you are headed then how do you know if you are getting any closer?
I did the online dating scene for 6 years. I dated about 200 women during those 6 years.
It was only in the 6th year of dating, when I finally was able to define exactly what I wanted, that I met my wife.
On my profile I listed exactly what I was looking for, “I’m looking for a Libra woman to have a long term, serious relationship with and to ultimately marry. She must be willing to have children. She must be under 30. She must not have children from a previous relationship. Family must be important to her. She must have a job and be financially self-dependent. Living at home with Mom and Dad is ok. Must not currently be going to school as work full time and school full time means no time to develop a relationship. Must live with-in 30 miles of Clovis California as I don’t do long distance relationships because they rarely ever work.”
When my wife saw what I wrote, and how it exactly fit her, she nearly fell out of her chair. She called her mom into the room to see it and they both were amazed and how well it fit. She later viewed it as a divine, “meant to be” thing. Divinity had nothing to do with it. It was all about clarity, purpose, and knowing exactly what I wanted.
I’m a knuckle head. It took me 6 years to come up with that “what I want” paragraph on my personals profile. Don’t make the same mistake I did.
The odds of you GETTING what you really want are all about knowing honestly, truly, precisely WHAT you want. Don’t be an indecisive donkey. Indecision and lack of focus increases the chances of you wasting a lot of time and money. It increases your chances of getting shot down because you are barking up the wrong tree, focusing on the wrong prey and using the wrong bait and tools or weaponry to achieve the outcome that you desire. So take a moment to get a good picture in your head – what it is that you want. That will put you miles ahead of most of the competition out there.
Once you know WHAT you want, you now need to know WHO you want.
What type of woman turns you on? What type of woman are you attracted to?
Do you like younger, less experienced women or do you like older, experienced ones?
Do the innocent looking ones float your boat or do the dirty nasty ones do it for you?
Are you attracted to upper-snobby north side chicks? Or are you attracted to dirty lower south side chicks?
Are professional working-women your thing or do you like wild college girls?
The better you can define exactly what you are looking for within your own mind, the less time you will waste targeting the wrong women, in the wrong places, for all the wrong reasons. The amount of time you have to spend looking for what you want is a direct consequence of how well you are prepared.
Now if you really don’t have any preferences, then that’s just fine, in some ways that lack of preference may help you get at least “something” just about anywhere. But be honest with yourself. If secretly you would love to have a fling with an innocent looking “librarian” chick who wears glasses, is tall and thin, and has a hidden nasty side, then make that your goal. You’ll then be able to hunt in the places where such a woman is likely to frequent.
If you want a rough, mean, biker chick who wears leather, then a trip to the tattoo parlor will not be a waste of time. See where I’m going with this?
If you want to find a beautiful MILF, she isn’t going to be at the same water hole as the cute college girl, or the serious corporate CEO chick who is looking for some male distraction after a stressful day at the office.
Different types of women hang out in different places and do different things with different friends, and once you know who it is that you are looking to hook up with, then you can figure out where you need to go to find her in her niche environment.
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