So you want to know how to pick up women from a night club or bar? Then listen up. Before you go out make sure you cut your nose hairs, ear hairs, and that you don’t have a unibrow. Many guys fail to pick up women because of ugly nose or ear hairs.
Put on one interesting item, an unusual jacket if it’s cold, a pendant, or a ring. You want to wear something that stands out and will get people talking to you or that you can build a conversation around.
To pick up women you need to show confidence. When you arrive, show confidence from the moment you walk in the door. Walk in confidently. Keep your head high, walk slowly, and smile. How you enter a night club or bar can set the tone for how people react to you the rest of the night.
If you’re alone, approach a group right away. It is easier to pick up women if you are part of a group. Women feel more comfortable talking with a guy who is part of a group that someone who is there alone. This is why it’s best to go to a club with friends. If you’re with friends, look engaged with them. Do not wander around to “check out the bar” or scan the area with your eyes looking for attractive women.
Attract attention by being louder. Women know that all the sober guys are the ones who are quiet and don’t look like they are having any fun.
When you meet at woman, look confident by standing up straight and making eye contact. Don’t lean in close to her. If you invade her personal space too quickly, she’ll pull back which is the worse way possible to start off a conversation. Never lean in to women you meet. Be respectful of their personal space.
You need to create mutual attraction before you build comfort. Hold off on the “what’s your name?” and “what do you do?” questions as well as the really deep conversations until it’s obvious that you are both into each other.
She needs to be showing that she is interested in you before you can show her that you are interested in her.
Stay near the bar area. Don’t get drunk. When you see a group of two or three women together, pretend that you just noticed them and ask them a question like one of these: I’m planning a co-worker’s retirement party and I’m trying to decide between an 80s theme or an over-the-hill theme. What do you think?
My friend keeps getting anonymous emails from a secret admirer but he thinks he knows who it is. Should he say something?
Ask the question like the situation is really going on, not like you’re taking a survey. Ideally you’ll see how these “opinion openers” work and you need to make up your own. You don’t want to use a generic “pick up” line. Never use pick-up lines as an opener. If you ask a question she’s heard before, she’ll know you are using a pick up line so come up with your own opener that are like the two above.
Always start talking to a woman within a few seconds of seeing her – important! Don’t lurk. Lurking is creepy. Creepy is bad. Nothing will turn a woman off more than if she gets a creepy feeling about you. Any time that you don’t want a woman to be interested in a man, imply that he is “creepy”.
Once she’s started talking about your co-workers retirement party or your friend’s secret admirer, after a few seconds, cut her off by noticing something about her, like:
“Alright it seems that you [pick one woman at random] are the good one and you [the other woman] are the bad one. And that’s okay. One of you can be my angel and the other can be the devil. Like we’ll roll down the street, one of you on each arm, we’ll make all the other women jealous, and every time there’s a decision to be made, you guys can whisper in my ear and we’ll see who’s more tempting.”
The point is to get her from talking about your co-worker’s retirement party or your friend’s secret admirer to having a normal conversation about all sorts of things. Don’t compliment her yet and don’t ask her about herself yet.
Making statements is a strategy. “You look like you’d be a schoolteacher,” will get her to elicit information without you having to ask.
Now that you have a normal conversation going, your next goal is to get the girl you want attracted
to you. You do this by: 1) Teasing her – give her a childlike nickname, 2) Tell a good funny story, 3) Don’t do anything that would be interpreted as hitting on her, 4) Be entertaining, without seeming to try too hard, 5) You should be doing 90% of the talking. Don’t let silence happen. Keep
talking.
Once she has shown some signs of attraction (touching your arm, laughing at your jokes, staying and
talking to you for 20 minutes or so), then you can indulge your curiosity about her.
You can ask her “screening questions” like, “So, what do you do for fun?” When she tells you things about herself that you are attracted to, compliment her on them.
Three compliments are usually enough. And make her earn them; she should have to talk about things that are genuinely interesting to you.
Continue to show your confidence by being cocky, say something like “when I first met you I wasn’t sure about you. Now that I get to you know you, you’re pretty interesting”.
This is where you can roll out all of the usual “What do you do?” and “Where are you from?” questions.
Concentrate on getting to know each other across a wide variety of topics as opposed to talking
about one subject in detail.
Don’t make your conversation into an interview. Prompt her to tell you about herself by telling
stories yourself.
Begin touching her playfully and initiating more intimate physically as the night goes on. Start out with playful pushing, tapping, thumb wrestling, etc., and then move into more intimate stuff like hand holding and kissing. It should be a smooth, upward transition that is comfortable for both of you.
Now you can get her to come home with you or at the least get her phone number.
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