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When you’re part of a couple it’s very easy to start spending all of your time together; it becomes a habit that’s hard to break. But there will come a time when your man has planned a night out with the guys (just the guys). Guy’s night is something too many women obsess over; they become plagued with doubts. Doubts about their own attractiveness but more importantly, that he’ll behave himself without you.
Slow down and stop speculating. Just like you need with your girlfriends, he needs time with his friends. It doesn’t need to mean anything other than exactly what it is; male bonding time. And it is sacred, so don’t stand in the way. Here’s why;
Freedom!
It’s important for guys to not feel too tied down when they’re in a relationship. It makes them comfortable. And let’s not forget that he had a life before you met him, even if his life revolves around you these days.
And while some things might change once he’s part of a couple, there are things from his single life that he undoubtedly wants to hang on to. Time with his friends is certainly one of those things. Keeping your man under your thumb all the time will trigger his wanting-what-he-can’t-have response; if he doesn’t perceive that he’s free to run away and play with the boys when he wants, it’s exactly what he will want all the time. Not feeling liberated to leave a relationship for a night is the surest way to feel dissatisfied in Coupletown.
Make Him Remember What He’s Got
Undoubtedly, you’re the best thing that’s ever happened to your beloved boytoy. He knows it and you know it. But just like you might over-romanticize your freshman year of college while conveniently forgetting your unbearable roommate or the days when you didn’t know how to handle your liquor, it’s possible for your lover to have spent so long away from other single women (without you around to keep his attention held) that he can start longing for something he’s forgotten wasn’t that good to begin with.
If ever there was a time to gather all your self confidence, this would be it. If your relationship suffers from trust issues, then you need to work them out, pronto. Relationships built on trust and commitment can withstand an occasional evening when the partners go their separate ways to go out with friends to engage in some harmless flirtation with others.
More than likely, giving your man your blessing for hitting the bars with buddies will inevitably include looking at or even talking to girls at those bars. It’s cool. Don’t worry. If your guy is solid, all this will serve to do is remind him how lame other girls are and how awesome you are; and he’ll be even more excited to see you when he gets home.
Score brownie points for yourself with his friends
When a man is in a relationship, his guy friends hate the girlfriend who won’t let him come out and play without her. When you’re the girlfriend who doesn’t make a fuss over that kind of stuff, you can bet you’ll earn plenty of points with his friends. And that matters, a lot, to most guys.
